After discussing why I haven't been all that bothered by breakup before 2009 my ex 'something' (who I will refer to as TBD until he comes up with a nickname) said,
"If a breakup didn't hurt, that's saying something. They always hurt. Even if you initiate it - which I know you didn't, but you nearly did - you were about to in some ways. I think that was one of the awesome things about 500 Days of Summer - the scene towards the end where she was crying suddenly as she realised she needed to break up with him. It was just so perceptively done."
Valid insight from a ex somethingerrather, totes weird.
Was I going to end it? Maybe at the beginning I was a bit overwhelmed, but I had just reached a stage where I really believed I wanted to give it a fair shot. Isn't that just awesome!? I struggle, at first but I always do and eventually I get over it or I leave. With Bear I made the decision to stay. I remember the exact moment it became clear. Oh well, such is life.
Is it odd that I turned to an ex for comfort from a current? Yes. Do I care? Nope.
Honestly, who knows you better in relationship bullshit than an ex? They have been through it all before, right next to you. It all just seems a bit more valid...and insightful.
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